What To Get Busy Moms for Christmas…Or What I’d Buy For Myself
After being married for 12 years, my husband has a hard time finding the right Christmas gift for me. It’s not that I’m super picky, he has just run out of gift ideas over the years. I spend most of my time working or with the kids, so fancy clothes or jewelry aren’t on my wish list.
So, what do you get a busy mom who doesn’t need much? That’s where the problem lies for my husband, and probably most husbands. This year, I actually had two requests (new gym shoes and a cell phone holder for my workouts) so he’s off the hook. But, I’ll help you come up with the perfect present for the busy mom in your life, or a gift for you to get yourself.
When I talk to my fellow busy mom friends, we discuss how the holiday gift we really want isn’t something you can buy in stores – time. I can’t ask my parents or husband for extra hours in the day or a magically cleaned house or the piles of laundry to be handled.
While time, laundry and a clean house can’t be bought, there are still great gifts that would make a busy mom smile. Here are holiday gift ideas for anyone struggling with what to get a busy mom who doesn’t need anything.
Easy Last-Minute Gift Guide
- Time Away: I love (and need) spa gift cards. That is by far my favorite gift from my husband. It isn’t just the cost of the massage, facial or manicure, it is also the promise of much-needed time away from the family. Sometimes it takes me months to redeem my gift card, but just knowing that I have a future spa appointment makes me happy.
- My Own Pretty Things: I am the only female in my house. We have lots of blue, green and muted tones in the house. I’m not a girly girl, but every now and then, I want to have pretty things. I have two coffee mugs that are all mine. One has my initial on it and has gold trim. The other is yellow and orange stripes. They are mine. No one else uses them. I love drinking out of them.
- Luxury Items: I’m not talking about Cartier watches or Louis Vuitton bags, I’m talking fancy moisturizer that I wouldn’t buy for myself, nice bubble bath or nice gloves or socks. Gifts that feel nice every time I use them.
- Pretty Notebooks and Pens: I’m a list maker and I love stationary. I can never have too many notebooks.
- Hired Help: My dream gift is a few cleaning services or car detailing. To be honest, my husband does the bulk of house cleaning due to my medical limitations, but it usually isn’t up to my standards. I don’t complain, since I’m not doing it, but I would love to have my house spotless, all at once, rather than having clean bathrooms one week, clean bedrooms another week, etc. Who has the time to make everything spotless all at once when you have work, kids and a life?
- A Planned Evening: Something happened once we got married where we went from my husband planning dates to me making all the plans. Once we had kids, it almost became set in stone. I would love to be surprised by having a babysitter hired and an evening planned!
- Self-Care Opportunities: When I was pregnant with my youngest, my husband pre-paid for 10 private pilates sessions at a local studio. That was my favorite holiday gift since I would never splurge on that for myself. If there is a class you want to take or a fitness class you’re interested in, hint at that for your gift.
Quite frankly, if no one gets these gifts for you, I highly recommend gifting them to yourself. Moms put the needs of everyone else ahead of our own at the detriment to our own well-being.
If no one is stuffing your stocking, buy your own stocking stuffers. If your spouse isn’t a good gift giver, show him this list or tell him what you want. It isn’t about being greedy, it’s about caring for yourself. It’s about prioritizing your wants for a change.
In general, being a mom is a selfless act. We give everything we have to our children. No matter how exhausted we are, if our kid wakes up in the middle of the night crying, we run to comfort them. If there is only one cookie left, we hand it over to our child. That’s just what moms do.
Take a little time over the holidays to put yourself first, even just for a minute. If you don’t care for yourself, who will?